A Good Aaaarrggghhhh!!

By Rev. Edie Weinstein http://liveinjoy.org

Sometimes, when it is all, finally, too much, I climb into my car, roll the windows up, and somewhere between backing out the driveway and rounding the next corner, I let out a yell that would topple Manhattan. How do you pray?
by Margaret L. Mitchell, as quoted in The Feminine Face of God, p. 124.

Edietree2My friend Cindy Greb posted this on her Facebook page and I knew I had to respond since it spoke so vividly to the ways I blow off steam AND pray. My response to her was:” Sometimes a good aaaarrrggghhhh is as potent and healing as a good o0o0o00o0o0mmmmm (: I pray every which way imaginable, depending on what state of mind I am in the moment.”

When I was in seminary in 1999, studying to be an interfaith minister, (The New Seminary in New York City), I wrote a paper called Prayer is Portable. There I expressed my take on the subject that we need not be in an edifice such as a church, synagogue, temple, mosque or ashram in order to engage in communication with the Divine. Many of us were taught that prayer must be in a certain form, a particular language and uttered at certain times. I was raised in Judaism (Conservative…spiritually, not politically, which is considered a middle ground between Orthodox and Reform) and went to Hebrew school until age 16. Each night throughout my childhood, my parents would tuck us in with the recitation of the Shema, which is what I call ‘the signature prayer’ of the Jewish religion. “Shema Yisrael Adonai Elohenu Adonai Echad” which translates to “Hear, O Israel, The Lord Our God, The Lord is One”. I heard my favorite interpretation from Rabbi Rami Shapiro: “That which we call God is Oneness itself.” What if we recognized the Oneness in all events and every being? To this day, I say the prayer before drifting off into dreamland. Each morning before rolling out of bed, I allow the words to The Modeh Ani to flow through me.

Modeh ani lifanekha melekh ḥai v’kayam sheheḥezarta bi nishmahti b’ḥemlah, rabah emunatekha.“

This translates to “I offer thanks before you, living and eternal King, for You have mercifully restored my soul within me; Your faithfulness is great.”

I then engage in another ritual which is to set intention for the day: “to have extraordinary experiences and connect with amazing people.” As the next 24 hours unfold, those events occur and those folks show up. Why should it surprise me? Throughout the day, my prayers are about wrapped in gratitude for what unfolds and what I desire to call in. As a wordsmith, I am careful to use language that speaks to what I do want, rather than what I don’t want…since our minds are tricky little critters that can lead us down all manner of meandering paths that we would prefer to avoid. I have found myself laughing with amazement and amusement at how far I have come in the past twenty or so years, from the somewhat timid little creature who dared not believe that she could truly live the life of her dreams. I attribute that to the process I described above. When the need to emote otherwise, arises, I allow myself to engage in toning, chanting, drumming, dancing, jumping up and down energy release.

As I enter this new morning, I express appreciation for the blessings that are constantly unfolding and let out an ahhhhh…rather than an arrggghhhh at this moment.


Rev. Edie Weinstein, LSW is a colorfully creative journalist, dynamic transformational speaker, licensed social worker, interfaith minister, PR Goddess, radio host and the author of The Bliss Mistress Guide To Transforming The Ordinary Into The Extraordinary. She is also an Opti-Mystic who sees the world through the eyes of possibility.

When Your World Starts To Crumble

By Brenda Pearce, http://www.efactorlive.com

CMR-My-show-cardWhen your world starts to crumble, do you bring out the crazy glue, to piece it back together?

This may work a time or two. It is exhaustive and it may last a day, a month or a year, and if we are lucky, forever. What else do you bring to the mix? Is this a process that only you can fix, or do you bring others in to help? I have found that if the situation is fixable, it is because it is truly in alignment with YOU. If the situation repeats, then you really do need to look at the alignment with your true happiness, mission and passion.

I had a very difficult time with coming to grips with this concept myself.

When I married, it was with the intention of FOREVER. I took those vows so seriously that I would have rather died, than face the truth that what I was doing was not working. What started out with love, and commitment, hope and promise changed after the happenings of life along the way. I was the gal with the crazy glue bottle, fixing patching, cobbling because I thought it was what I needed to do. I was going crazy. Exhausted, and stretched to the frazzled remnants of ME.

When separation and the eventual divorce ensued, I was left with only ME. This was the opening, the gift I really needed to really honour, love and know that what could have been the door crashing in my face and an opportunity to blame or shame others, was really a chance to rebirth ME.

I took stock of what I had, and to take a step back from situation and really examine the lessons along the way, and be a student of life. Never did I think that this door would open at the age of 50, yet it did. More and more, people are finding that divorce is happening later in life, when things should be easier, financially, and relationship wise as the hard stuff should be over. Divorce is happening more so now in these later years as with the time to be more in relationship, away from the chaos of raising the family, we are faced with a stranger we thought we knew.

I am not advocating divorce as an answer to the crazy glue method of cobbling life together, but before you insanely try to patch what is broken, stop and really check in with you. Stop to honour you, for the Divine gift that you are. Look at your strengths, your goals and dreams and give them wings to be nurtured, embraced and developed, in or out of the relationship. The pieces will take care of themselves, they will either reassemble of their own accord, or be swept along the current of the journey of life, but you do not have to be the one to do all of the fixing.

A few things you can do, to nurture and love yourself, and open yourself to opportunity and personal repair…
– Take time to spend time in nature, or solitude – going for daily walks is a start
– Read good books, that are written by others on the life journey. Co-authored books by real women like the “Embraced By The Divine” book coming soon.
– Finding a group of women to join as either a membership site, or online community is a tremendous help. These women have been there and done that, and are really ready to share their wisdom from the heart
– Being less judgmental of yourself, the situation, or the other person.
– Taking in breathing or a mindfulness practice and stop relying on the past, or thinking about the future, and really focusing in on the moment… Am I okay, am I feeling good, and stretching each moment of realizing, I am okay, and I am really feeling good, and this will continue to stretch into the next moment and the next.
– Look at your skills. What do I do that really brings me happiness, and expand on that. Who knows, it may lead to a new passion that brings you happiness, and could become a new career or a lease on life.

Just know that it starts within you. You are all you need and when you realize the beauty of who you are, the world changes to celebrate and reflect on that. Put the crazy glue away, and step into a more harmonious you.


Brenda Pearce is a contributing author to The Embraced By the Divine book, by Michelle Mayur. She is an emerging author, speaker, healer, and broadcaster of 2 weekly shows, E Factor Radio on www.blogtalkradio.com/efactorbrendapearce, and The Empower Hour on the Connect Me Radio Network www.connectmeradio.com/genre/empowerment . A divorce after a 26 year marriage changed her life and opened doors she never knew were possible.