Why Trying To Get “Rid Of Fear” Is A Mind Game You Can’t Win

By Lorraine Cohen, www.lorrainecohen.com

“You are allowed to be scared. Fear doesn’t come up because you did something wrong, you’re doomed, or you look funny. Fear comes up because you’re not seeing some gorgeous, valuable and much-needed jewel right where you’re standing, and it will absolutely not let you go out that door without it.” – Mark Silver

reflection-shadow1I’ve been dancing with fear all my life. For example, when I was in my 30’s I overcame fear of public speaking to become a sought after speaker and I moved to a new state with little money and no steady income to build a coaching/spiritual guidance/therapy practice that is approaching its 28th year. Was it scary? Hell yeah.

How did I deal with my fears and doubts? At the time I used what most people were working with: affirmations, creative visualization, focusing on being in the present, breathing, hypnosis, emotionally eating … techniques geared to interrupt the mental messages, body sensations, and change beliefs and “get rid” of the fear feelings.

The focus was all about stopping and getting rid of unwanted fears and feelings.

In the late 1990’s my life fell apart for the second time. After buying a new home, a new car, doing some home renovations, my therapy practice suddenly began to steadily decline. Money fears created a panic and I found the usual mind control techniques failed to provide any long term relief. I had periods of feeling terrified, helpless, angry, desperate, and sad. At other times I saw something miraculous happening that would change my life if I just stayed strong and trusting to walk the distance through the darkness into the Light.

I began to understand the missing pieces. I realized that facing fear is not about overcoming it, it is about walking through it. I began looking at fear in a new light…

Instead, imagine seeing fear as an ally to:

* Keep you out of harm’s way by alerting you to danger.

* Help you to discern when you need to set healthy boundaries to be safe and protected.

* Support you in developing courage to show up to LIFE.

* Build faith in yourself, others, and God.

* Provide motivational and inspirational energy to break through perceived limitations and illusions to stand in your greatness.

* Show you when the “little you” inside needs attention and comfort; to feel love, care, and protection.

* Empower you to find your voice in your relationships, your business and in the message you wish to share with the world.

* And most importantly, show you when you have disconnected from the Divine within you, the True Source of your Power.

Trying to get “rid of fear” is a mind game you can’t win.

As long as you see your fears as an enemy to defeat, you will continue to wage war against yourself.

To transform fear you must walk through it… to see the illusions and reclaim your Power.

The darkness or challenge is a pathway to the Light. You can get stuck in the story of a perceived problem. When you look for the deeper meaning of each experience that challenges you, you will always find healing, learning and growth opportunities.

Debbie Ford once wrote:

“Thank your soul for bringing fear into your life as a pathway to find your way back home to God – this presence within you that loves you dearly– this energy that always triumphs fear. Love your fears as you would anything you cherish – bless them, honor them, and use them as the sacred reminders that they are … lighting the way back to the wholeness of your Sacred Self and into the loving embrace of the Divine.”

Beautiful wisdom…

You are living at an auspicious time in history, waking up to see life through a new set of eyes in this Era of Enlightenment. Fear will continue to be a part of your life experience as you grow and evolve. A critical key to dance in this new energy is to learn how to live in the present moment, embracing each experience without resistance and allowing your feelings to be fully felt without trying to control, manage, move, and direct their elimination.

Any attempt you do to try to control your experience will create more resistance and suffering.

Feel your fears (and every emotion) without focusing on the mental story your mind/ego is creating.

Experience your emotions as the energy they are and breathe into them, doing NOTHING. Just feel, breathe and notice… body sensations, thoughts swirling…whatever…..let your emotions play out….

Without resistance and actively engaging your efforts to get rid of or stop what you don’t want to feel, the emotions will begin to burn out and fall apart leading to transformation. Peace and Grace will rush in when you stop fighting.

Embrace your fears with love instead of judging them and doing battle. Your life will change…. 😀

 

Founder of Powerfull Living, Rev. Lorraine Cohen (United States) is an internationally recognized life architect, spiritual guide, inspirational speaker, and heart healer. For more than 25 years, Lorraine has assisted thousands of women who value the inner journey, have the courage and passion to go deeper and create massive changes in themselves to reach higher states of consciousness and be of the greatest service to the world; to live a life that is awake and authentic and to create a reality that is conscious, deliberate and meaningful. www.lorrainecohen.com

Keys To Living Your Biggest and Brightest Life

By collaborator Lorraine Cohen www.lorrainecohen.com/blog/

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ from A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson.

woman-purple-oasisWe use the word power in many different contexts. Words have different meanings for each of us; different concepts, points of reference and interpretations.

The notion of Power might hold a negative connotation for you. For another, having power and feeling powerfull might be a positive state of being.

When you hear or think of the word ‘power’, what words or phrases come to your mind?

Do you have a negative reaction that turns you right off?

Do you have a positive response that feels uplifting and empowering?

A negative response to the word power might be:

~ Manipulation
~ Abusive
~Oppression
~ Money hungry
~ Controlling
~ Helplessness
~ Pain
~ Unkindness
~Fear

A positive response to the word power might feel uplifting and empowering:

Feeling Unstoppable
Being Source
Magical
~ Becoming a deliberate Creator
~ Fearless
~ Freedom
~ Limitless possibilities
~ Confident
~ Having unwavering strength
~ Being in alignment with spirit
~ Living a value-base life
~ Sense of holiness

Perhaps you have a mixed reaction to the word Power and what it means to you?

When I talk about power what I am speaking about is your personal power because when you stand in your truth both as a human and spiritual being, how you show up is personal for you.

True power comes from being authentic and true to who you are, rather than solely focusing on your accomplishments and status. It means remembering that the Source of everything you seek that has created worlds lives within you, through you and as you. In this context personal power/authentic power is holy and Divine, individually and collectively.

Breathe into that. Feel that in your heart and in your body

Authentic Power is the relationship between your personality and your soul to create a life of meaning and purpose. Struggle happens when parts of your personality are in opposition to your soul’s intentions.

To create an authentically powerfull life you need to align your personality with your soul to have:

* A life with more joy and less pain and struggle.
* A life with more peace and love and less fear and drama.
* A life that allows your heart to blossom; to give and receive love freely and do things that make you feel vital and alive.

You stop trying to make things happen and start allowing life to bless you. What you are doing is fulfilling, nurturing and life seems to flow with ease and Grace even during challenging times.

What you believe, think, feel and say about power is critical to living your purpose and divine destiny. To deny and shy away from owning and embracing who you truly are as a powerfull co-creator is to separate yourself from the real you and God/Higher Presence.

This place of separation is caused by thought patterns, thought concepts, cultural conditioning, family/mental rules, and past experiences of unresolved pain and traumas.

In this incredible time of awakening we are being called to uncover where we are misaligned with our truest selves; to heal our hearts, and reclaim the life we came here to live.

You might be feeling stuck, scared, confused, overwhelmed, frustrated as well as excited and optimistic…. You might be feeling a deep inner yearning for something that something that wants to be expressed or released….

This is a time of breakthroughs, miracles and magic. The most important relationship in creating an authentically powerfull life is the one you have with God as the veils of separation are thinning.

The bond you have with the Divine is an essential key to create heaven on earth and live your biggest, boldest dreams. The time is NOW to make those dreams happen.

The Divine is reaching for a deeper connection with you. Do you sense that?

This year holds a very different energy – one that is full of promise and joyful manifestation. This is a year of Magic and Fulfillment; to give yourself permission to have what you really, really want and not what you think you need to settle for.

Can you feel that too?

This is your time. Go, make some magic! 😀

Love and blessings,

Lorraine

Founder of Powerfull Living, Rev. Lorraine Cohen is an internationally recognized life strategist, soul guide, inspirational speaker, heart healer, and charismatic broadcast personality. For more than 25 years, Lorraine has used her extraordinary spiritual and intuitive gifts to support spiritual women who want to make a difference to release fears, traumas, and not feeling good enough to live a soul-fulfilling, abundant and happy life.

Collaborator to a soon to be released books, “Embraced By The Divine: The Emerging Woman’s Gateway to Power, Passion, and Purpose.” and “Unwavering Strength Volume 2.”

Learn more: http://lorrainecohen.com

Are You Addicted to Struggle and Drama?

By Lorraine Cohen www.lorrainecohen.com

storms-300x300My parents grew up during the Depression. Neither finished high school because of financial needs. They met in their mid twenties and married soon after. My mother was 34 when I was born which was old for women at that time to bear children. My father worked at many different jobs to support the family and when I was eight, my mother had to go back to work.

My parents worked to provide the best life for me and my sister. I always had a home, food, clothes, family vacations…but through a child’s eyes I saw money was a concern and a worry for my parents. The message I received was life is hard.

Did you grow with these messages?

No pain no gain.
You have to work hard to _______________.
Nothing worthwhile comes easily.
If it looks too good to be true, distrust it.
You have to fight for what /who you want.
You must chase your dreams for them to come true.
Unless you put out huge amounts of effort you will never get the result you want.

Yes, to live a meaningful, abundant life, clarity, focus, passion, commitment to your dreams, consistent action, and courage are important ingredients. You must be engaged in creating the life you wish to manifest.

But if you have been taught to believe that life is meant to be about struggling, fighting, and pushing to MAKE things happen, you will create that kind of life for yourself.

In a recent conversation with a dear friend the topic of money came up. We’ve been committed to our spiritual journey and inner healing for years and money has been a learning edge for us both.

In our society money represents so many things to people including:

Security
Self-worth
Freedom
Value
Power
Happiness
Prestige
Success

I’ve worked on releasing money blocks, embracing my self-worth , increasing self-love, standing in my power, deepening my relationship with the Divine, following my passion and inner guidance; all the things I help clients to achieve.

I’ve had huge success in many areas of my life and I recognized that one place I was playing out the struggle and drama piece was with through money. What I realized in this conversation was that I have developed a tendency to create drama and struggle to block having what I really want; like an addiction!

What a light bulb moment that was! I felt a huge release of energy and a rush of gratitude for the gift of that awareness.

With all of the negative messages we are bombarded with about life being difficult, unsafe, problematic, and tumultuous, is it any wonder so many people feel exhausted, depressed, scared, frustrated and confused?

Is life meant to be about struggling, fighting, and pushing to MAKE things happen?

What if it isn’t?

Guess what? Life is meant to be joyfull, abundant, fun, meaningfull, creative, wondrous, happy, loving…

Life is not meant to be full of pain, struggle, suffering, fearfull, and full of negative drama.

If you grew up in a chaotic environment and yearn to create a life of peace, you may find that when you feel peace, you create problems and drama because that’s your comfort zone to feel safe.

If you grew up where money was limited as I did, you may find that attracting or having lots of money feels uncomfortable and you find ways to get rid of it or block too much money coming into your bank account.

You may find yourself struggling as you are on the verge of a significant shift and breakthrough and the “tiny you” inside is feeling scared and unsafe. Use that awareness to comfort that part of yourself that is also showing you that you are disconnected with the Divine Source within. Once reconnected to that love and peace that is the REAL you, fears diminish.

Whatever messages you grew up become the road map for your life. If struggle is your default pattern, embrace this truth. Once embraced, you can choose to transform the energy so that your life flows with more joy, ease, and Grace.

Struggle is all about FEAR and RESISTANCE.

Struggle and suffering is a choice!

One way to make a shift is by creating what I call Relentless Affirmations, a process I teach in my new Authentic Power and Joy program.

Below is an excerpt from the program materials:

Relentless Affirmation means creating a positive statement based on a truth you have come to recognize and accept in your heart and soul. It becomes powerfull when you embody it as a way of being every day.

The affirmations are not based on something you wish to be true; rather they are founded on an inner knowingness; a trust and peace within even if the statements are not rock solid when you first create them.

Affirmations can be statements of what you want, what you know to be true about yourself, and what you take a stand in/for from power and joy.

Statements that affirm what you are tapping into at a deeper level of truth that you know is true regardless of the physical evidence in the world. Statements become declarations of truth that can evoke gratitude and joy.

Examples: [Read the Full Article at http://lorrainecohen.com/addicted-struggle-drama/]

 

Founder of Powerfull Living, Rev. Lorraine Cohen is an internationally recognized life architect, spiritual guide, inspirational speaker, and heart healer. For more than 25 years, Lorraine has assisted thousands of women who value the inner journey, have the courage and passion to go deeper and create massive changes in themselves to reach higher states of consciousness and be of the greatest service to the world; to live a life that is awake and authentic and to create a reality that is conscious, deliberate and meaningful. www.lorrainecohen.com

 

EBTD: 019 Life Code Blueprints

Life Code Blueprints: The KEYS to Opening the Doors to Your Dreams!

Hosted by Lorraine Cohen with guest Jesse An Nichols George

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What if you had a guidebook to show you how you function in the world as the powerful Creator you really are?

Jesse talks about how your own personal vibrational codes function and interact with EVERYTHING in the world. Working with your personal life codes places you in greater connection with Spirit and influences your ability to lead a Divinely fulfilling and abundant life.

Would you like to learn how to make wiser decisions, and operate with foresight? Jesse shared how your personal Code Blueprints make that possible.

In this FREE 90 minute teleseminar you will learn:

  • How codes can be utilized in your life.
  • How working with codes dissipates your blocks and challenges and opens you to Divine flow.
  • How they can help you get out of confusion and find greater clarity that leads to living a more compassionate life
  • How working with your codes accelerates your spiritual path.
  • How working with codes allow you to live an authentic life full of joy, abundance, health, and love.


This interview is also available as an Embraced by the Divine iTunes podcast.
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Rev. Lorraine Cohen is internationally recognized for one love coaching, inner grace/higher realms healing and channeling. She uses her highly attuned spiritual, intuitive, and healing gifts to support conscious women to dive deeply into self–love to transform past emotional wounds into wisdom, compassion, and power. In her Heart Connections group, Lorraine creates sacred space for lightworkers,healers, new paradigm leaders and empaths to gather in sisterhood to shine brightly and bring more Divine Love into the world. She is an international best-selling co-author for two anthologies, “Unwavering Strength, Vol. 2″ and “Embraced By The Divine: The Emerging Woman’s Gateway to Power, Passion, and Purpose.” http://lorrainecohen.com

Jesse An Nichols George is a Coding Interpreter, Author, and Traveling Presenter. She created the Genesis Statement, True North Tour, and hosts her own international radio show The Code Connection. Her work is founded in living and compassionate life and finding Divine alignment. Jesse blends over 50 different modalities pulled from both Eastern and Western philosophies. You can learn more about her work at www.compassioncodes.com

A Spiritual Truth About Faith and Peace

By Lorraine Cohen www.lorrainecohen.com

Inner peace doesn’t come from getting what you want. Inner peace comes from remembering who you are at the deepest level… Divine ~ Lorraine Cohen

FaithIf you look at life through black and white eyes you miss all the rainbows in the grey. If you continue to label life experiences as good and bad, right and wrong, you will only be living a slice of life.

If you expect things to go poorly rather than well, you will likely create that. If you focus only on the negative when things don’t go your way, you will sacrifice your inner peace and happiness. If you allow the behavior of others to control your life then you empower others to control your joy. And if you feel ingratitude for what blesses your life every day, what makes you think you will be happier with more?

Your attitude, beliefs, expectations, and perceptions shape your experiences. Your life can change in an instant. You have it within you to transform the landscape of your life by the choices you make with an open mind and heart. Life is meant to be a grand adventure full of mystery, twists and turns, laughter, surprises and opportunities to stretch yourself to new horizons.

Remember energy goes where attention goes. The Universe is watching and listening….You are either living by conscious intention or unconscious default.

You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.

No matter what is happening “out there”, peace begins within. Trust that there is a reason and purpose for the experiences you have and the more you embrace them with an open mind and heart to receive the gifts that may not as yet be revealed, the more you will dance with life in Grace.

Stop for a moment, tune into your heart and connect with your soul. Focus on taking several slow deep breaths. Bring each breath up from your belly and fill your lungs to capacity with the energies of Divine Love. As you exhale slowly, send the energies out into the world to anyone and anything that you love.

Consider the special people in your life, Mother Earth, animals, the government, places of suffering … or wherever it is most needed.

As you breathe Divine Love in and out, invite the energies to fill you up completely, immersing yourself in this vibration and rest there a while longer, soaking it in.

Ahhhhhh. Then be open to receive the Love and blessings coming back to you. As we give we automatically receive.

Approach life as a grand adventure with the spirit of a child and the courage of a warrior.

Just take that next step in faith and trust and see what happens…

When you begin to experience doubt and worry, let it be a reminder to increase your faith. Remember that everything happens for a reason. Let go of trying to understand why and rest in the knowing that, in the end, all will be well. Because it will … Really.

Life can be magical if you let it.

You are more loved than you may realize and you never walk alone.

Sending Love and gratitude your way 😀

Lorraine

Rev. Lorraine Cohen (United States) is an internationally recognized life architect, spiritual guide, inspirational speaker, and heart healer. For more than 25 years, Lorraine has assisted thousands of women who value the inner journey, have the courage and passion to go deeper and create massive changes in themselves to reach higher states of consciousness and be of the greatest service to the world; to live a life that is awake and authentic and to create a reality that is conscious, deliberate and meaningful. www.lorrainecohen.com

How To Find the “Blessings” In Every Moment

By Lorraine Cohen www.lorrainecohen.com

blessings-flow-to-you1Gratitude, like faith, is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it grows, and the more power you have to use it on your behalf. If you do not practice gratefulness, its benefaction will go unnoticed, and your capacity to draw on its gifts will be diminished. To be grateful is to find blessings in everything, This is the most powerful attitude to adopt, for there are blessings in everything.” ~ Alan Cohen

This morning as I awoke to the rain falling, I thought, “I wonder what blessings will be coming my way today?” I was inspired to begin my day with this curiosity from a conversation I had with a friend last night.

How you start your day sets the tone and the energy that moves through your day. If you begin from a centered space, you can flow with life with more ease and Grace.

I’ve been playing with the intention of seeing the blessings in everything for many years. Sometimes it has been challenging and yet, when I look deeper, I always find several gold nuggets to enrich my life.

One of my greatest teachers is my sweet 15-year old cat Cassie who is dealing with kidney disease. Despite ongoing bouts of diarrhea and some vomiting she continues to be engaged and playful. What she teaches me is to not see her as ill, rather to see her as “being” who she is and loving her “there.” And when the sadness comes, it is a blessing to feel and release the pain of losing her when it is time to let her go.

She continues to bless me in learning patience, trusting my intuition in taking care of her and myself, fully show up and appreciate the special loving moments we share. She is teaching me to surrender and let go and how to stand strong when my heart breaks.

Blessings come in many forms, shapes and sizes.

Recognizing blessings can be tricky because the mind is so quick to label experiences as positive or negative.

It’s easy to feel gratitude when things go the way you like and want. It’s a common response to resist and react negatively when things seem to go awry or present unwanted challenges.

* The people who push you buttons help you learn so much about yourself
* A difficult relationship can help you find your voice, your value, and your power.
* Losing a job may lead you to your life’s passion and purpose.
* A health challenge may help you cultivate self-love and forgiveness.
* A delay in moving forward may be a Divine redirection to something even better.
* Obstacles may help you discover what you really, really, want.

What if you saw every challenge, every perceived problem, every annoyance, every person and situation as an opportunity to heal, grow, and spiritually evolve AND make a difference in the world.

What if EVERYTHING in your life was brilliantly created (by YOU) to help you dissolve barriers, heal inner wounds, replace illusions with deeper truth, and bring you closer to your higher Divine Self?

What if every experience was designed to bring you “home” to Love and peace so that you could also help to heal the world?

How would your world change?

What would you be thinking, feeling, seeing, saying and doing differently?

Asking the right questions can reveal hidden gifts especially when you stop, tune into your heart and body and connect with your inner guidance..

When facing challenges and repetitive themes, awareness brings illumination.

1. What message does the experience bring? What is your spirit trying to tell you?

2. What have you been resisting that you know in your heart is true? A feeling, an action?

3. What story are you standing in? What is your truth/the truth?

4. What are you being called to claim and OWN?

5. What is yours to heal?

Begin each day with a grateful heart. Look for the blessings in your daily life in the shadows and in plain view.

Notice the beauty, the simple pleasures, the things that delight you, the things that stretch you out of your comfort zone to follow your heart, the ways in which you are being called to show up and stand in your power… and be open to see how Divinely supported and loved you really are.

Love and blessings,

Lorraine

Founder of Powerfull Living, Rev. Lorraine Cohen (United States) is an internationally recognized life architect, spiritual guide, inspirational speaker, and heart healer. For more than 25 years, Lorraine has assisted thousands of women who value the inner journey, have the courage and passion to go deeper and create massive changes in themselves to reach higher states of consciousness and be of the greatest service to the world; to live a life that is awake and authentic and to create a reality that is conscious, deliberate and meaningful. www.lorrainecohen.com